You will likely become known by others for what you are — a submissive living a slave life. You may think it will remain private, just between you and your Master, but apart from marriage D/s, it rarely does. For one thing, your Master will want to share his toys — or at least share the knowledge that he has this toy, you. After all, he’s alpha. You won’t stay private for long. For another thing, full-time slavery is hard to disguise and hide over time. He’ll have you in a collar; he’ll dress you in obvious ways. Being 24/7 inevitably exposes you to the awareness of others.
The point is that you will become known as a slave in a D/s lifestyle. Are you ready to deal with what other people think of you?
Some people will not quite understand what a “submissive life” means and therefore will not understand you. They will vaguely know that you live in “servitude of some kind” to this man, but are not married to him, and that it’s sort of a “BDSM” thing, you know, and “why would anyone do that?” And in their confusion about you, they may become more distant from you. I have experienced this. You too will find your submissive life is cryptic to a lot of people and that they will marginalize you. You’ll be misunderstood.
There will be some who know more of what a D/s life means and what you are, but they will judge you for it. You are “setting back the cause of women” or you are “selling your body for money” or you are “psychologically troubled” or you are, you know, “basically a whore.” Handling the judgments of people isn’t easy. One thing I hear from time to time is, “You’re throwing your life away,” and that’s for me the hardest judgment of all. I can blushingly endure being called a whore better than I can handle the thought I am wasting my life. But keep in mind something: part of what it means to be your master’s slave is to receive these humiliations and to submit to being judged. He will appreciate that you cope well with being judged and being assigned in people’s minds a lower level of social status.
There will be those who know exactly what you are and are not judgmental. This you’ll find to be a relief, for you won’t need to explain yourself or define your life for them. These people know. And yet, the downside is that they know. They know you are your master’s property, and they know you are walked about on a leash, and they know you are often humiliated in front of others, and they know you are used sexually. They know you are a slave. What’s sometimes difficult about this is that it’s all true.
So the first question I pose to you is whether you are committed enough to a life of slavery to endure being known in these ways as a submissive-slave.
The second question is if you have a friend or two who know what you are and don’t judge you for it. As I write this to you, I write it to myself, for I don’t have that in-person friend who gets it and gets me.
Someone needs to remind you from time to time that you are remarkable and beautiful for sacrificing your will to another, for having the courage of living your submissive life out loud.