You will, in time, learn that you are not the only one in his life, nor even the most important one. You are something he owns. You are his slave — not his wife, not his girlfriend, not one of his drinking buddies.
He has other people.
For an alpha male, “having others” is part of how he is wired. He populates his life with people. He cannot be contained, and he will have relationships with many, including some he is intimate with.
You will be on the lower tier of these others. He may have you living with him, but that does not give you a “higher position in the mansion.” A housemaid gets paid and is able to go home at night. You are lower than the maid or manservant.
He will have male friends, perhaps golfing pals, guys from work, drinking buddies, old college friends. He will find his way of explaining you in his life. They will occupy his time, and take him away from you.
He will have girlfriends, some perhaps you know about, others perhaps not. That is none of your business, though you will seek to make it so. You must really strive hard to let go of that — jealousy will eat you up inside.
If he has these others, you must acquiesce to his having life with them, accepting that you do not have those privileged places in his life. If he is a more private man and does not have these others right now, you must live assuming that he could develop these other relationships, and probably will — make yourself ready for it.
You are a deep submissive, and you have a place in his life because you need to be a slave. And it’s his dominant need to keep a slave, which happens to be you. Being his slave is a unique, special relationship, for sure, but that, and nothing more, is what you are to him.
As you enter this life, dear one, you must realize you will never have him. As soon as you try to have him — to reach out and hold him and keep him from others — you are being unsubmissive and possessive, changing the very thing you are to him. And then you will have destroyed everything.