I appreciate that readers and followers care about my life and my mom and the circumstances here, but I also realize most people don’t care to know all the details. So, this is a brief update for those who might be interested.
I’ll get back to our “regular programming” shortly… 😉
In fact, there’s nothing new about my mom’s condition, but there are some new considerations regarding her ongoing care.
Without getting into medical details, my mother is dealing with sporadic memory loss. There are long stretches when she knows who I am, and other times when she doesn’t. While she will never get better, she also is not declining very quickly — which is good news but makes the decisions regarding her care more difficult. Her “down” times require her to be supervised, making it necessary for someone to live with her. But she is memory-present enough of the time that putting her in a memory-care facility would squander the good moments, and life, she still has.
There is a woman here — I’ll call her Lucille — a friend of Mother’s from church. Lucille is in her fifties, recently widowed, and has a background in nursing. She has volunteered to sit in with Mother for periods of time to give me a break, so I have had afternoons and certain mornings out of the house (my times in the woods and at the diner with Jeremy, for instance).
Lucille has offered to do more. And we have started talking about an arrangement by which Lucille would move in to this place (mother’s house) and care for her full-time. For Lucille, the living arrangement would be rent-free, an attractive benefit for her, and we would pay her some monthly stipend for her work and time.
It’s a possibility, but there are some things to be worked out:
I would need to come back here on a regular basis, perhaps for several weeks or a month each time, to provide Lucille “vacations,” so to speak. I would want to do so anyway — these are important, rich times with Mom in her moments of clarity. I don’t want to miss out on that. Amanda will gladly approve my trips here but would like to know for a year ahead when those trips would be. So, I’m talking about that with Lucille.
Lucille will need the help of another to sit in for her, just as she is doing for me currently. She will need breaks too. At this point, we don’t have that other volunteer person.
And there are some financial matters, primarily a question of whether insurance can cover some cost of remuneration to Lucille as a healthcare provider. She may need to get licensed for that.
It seems possible and promising, but there is much yet to think through. Which is what I’m doing in writing this… 🙂