Forgive the flippant song title from “The Sound of Music.” I couldn’t resist… although I think I used it before.
In fact, this is a serious post. I’ve been torn in knowing how to write about Maria in her current family situation. This is sort of an update on things with her.
I know, this may be TMI for most readers. I feel I need to explain these circumstances, as they involve both Master McKenna and me. But I realize this is a soap opera…
I might say first that Maria herself is a reader of this blog. She says that she’s learned much from my posts and that they’ve been instrumental in her decision to explore this life. (I’m honored.) So Maria is well aware that I live my slave life out loud in this WordPress space. And she knows her life and mine are now intertwined as we both are to live submissively together under Master McKenna. Some time ago, Maria gave me permission to write about her and me and Master McKenna specifically (perhaps explicitly) in my postings.
That was agreed to before. But this is a different matter, as it has to do with Maria’s family situation outside the mansion. There are privacies that should be maintained.
Yesterday, I discussed this directly with Maria at lunch. I said there was no reason for me to go into her family situation on my blog, but I felt I needed to say something in regard to her situation with Master McKenna.
What follows has Maria’s permission for me to express. It’s a lot, more than I had intended, yet maybe not enough to forestall further questions about aspects I cannot reveal.
Maria is in her thirties, unmarried without children. Her mother is separated, and her father still lives in the area. They are going through a divorce. She has two adult brothers. They all live separately, her brothers have families, and Maria has lived on her own in an apartment until just now, when she moved into Master McKenna’s mansion on the third floor.
It is perhaps best for me to state what this isn’t. These are not family health issues or physical emergencies. If they were, Master McKenna would not only be gracious but seek to help. Nothing I’ve heard from Maria suggests there’s any physical abuse involved within the family, although by my reckoning, there may be emotional coercion and psychological abuse.
There’s apparently a lot of drama surrounding the impending divorce. Maria’s mother is not a strong person emotionally. It seems her father is bullying her mother, manipulating financial things, and creating little explosions of drama impulsively. I realize there are always two sides to every story, but the point here is only how Maria’s mom perceives it. Maria’s brothers tend to side with their father. Maria sides with her mother. Her mother needs Maria for support and calls her frequently.
There is more underlying this than I can share here.
Maria tells me she would never have committed to anything with Master McKenna had she known this would be a problem. Her parents decided to divorce in January, and these conflicts only popped up later, in April, seemingly triggered by things in the separation agreement.
Somehow the whole family thought it a good idea to have Easter dinner together. But that exploded, forcing Maria back to the mansion on Easter Sunday, earlier than expected. Master McKenna was not pleased.
Master McKenna is not an unreasonable dominant. He understands what Maria’s family predicament is and has shown considerable forbearance. At the same time, her family drama has called her away so frequently as to make any D/s schedule for her with him, any training plan, nearly impossible.
The further complication is that Maria, a ways back, got out of her apartment lease to move into the mansion. This was Master M’s plan. The mansion is now her home. She has to live there, even if she isn’t actually there a lot of times. It’s rather awkward.
Master McKenna is exasperated like I’ve never seen him before. He is normally very pragmatic, a great problem-solver, which has equipped him to be the CEO he is. But in these matters of Maria’s family dynamics, he seems at sea, probably because he can do nothing about them.
His only connection to her is as her dominant. He is not her father or caretaker or husband. He cannot do anything to solve her family issues, and in the meantime, he is connected to someone in theory whom he’s not connected to in practical reality. In business terms, he sees it as a “dotted-line relationship,” which is usually problematic. (My amateur analysis.)
He feels helpless in the situation. And it’s never good for a dominant to feel helpless.
So, I had some ideas about this and also a legal suggestion from Amanda and then some good advice from the outside (thank you, Nora). Yesterday (Tuesday) I had lunch with Maria, and later in the afternoon talked with Master McKenna, and there’s now a temporary solution in play.
I suggested they both consider a pause to the slave training. I proposed, for the time being, Maria should live freely at the mansion without any obligation to Master M. This will be approximately until I come there (in three weeks) for the month of June. Essentially, I have suggested to both of them that they stop for now and start over later.
During this interim, Maria will advise her mother to get a restraining order on her father. (Amanda tells me restraining orders are common in divorce proceedings, not as any implication of abuse but as a clear boundary for both parties. Amanda is surprised this wasn’t done as a matter of course. I have some questions about the mother’s legal counsel, but that’s not my business.) If this is done, it should eliminate the urgent calls for Maria to show up to her mother’s house at the drop of a hat.
I have proposed that in June when I come to the mansion, Maria’s training start then. This will be the re-boot, the start-over. As if no family drama has intruded.
However, I have additionally suggested that Maria’s training time then be during days only, say from eight to six, like a workday. This gives her opportunity to leave in the evenings and be with her mother if need be. Any family issues can be scheduled for attention during her nights.
Maria’s internship has always been intended to last two months. She now will train in June alongside me, then in July alone with Master M. (This works with his travel schedule.) After July, as previously planned, Master McKenna will decide if he wishes to take her on as his slave part-time or full-time.
By then, at the very least, Maria’s mom and dad should be officially divorced, and these issues should be behind her.
So, I had lunch with Maria yesterday, proposing this. I then talked this through on the phone with Master McKenna later in the afternoon. They sat down and talked this out face to face last night.
Both of them have agreed to this plan, and are proceeding with it — as Master M says, “effective immediately.”
It doesn’t seem to me this is so brilliant a solution that they couldn’t have gotten to it themselves. But I think they both were trying hard to make this work and got mired in the mud of it. They couldn’t see a path out of it.
Both are relieved. Maria has time now to come and go at the mansion without feelings of guilt. Master McKenna has a solution to a difficult problem, and he is always fond of solutions. Her submissive internship will go forward, just starting later than originally planned.
Master M said to me on the phone, a brightness now in his voice, “There’s another benefit in this.”
“Now I have you alone to myself in the evenings.”
I didn’t tell him that was my plan all along.